Dear Etty,

I just returned from a Sunday platform at which the speaker delivered a talk about a philosopher who had some connections to Ethical Culture.  While the speaker was enthusiastic, I was unable to understand many of the concepts because he neglected to provide descriptions of the various philosophies that he mentioned.  Should I have said something during response?   Is there an ethical way to comment on a speaker?

Confounded

Dear C,

Assuming you don’t merely want to vent, how do we express concerns about a speaker’s ability to communicate effectively that brings out the best?  Unlike an idea or point of view for which a speaker expects a variety of reactions, I believe we are likely to alienate the speaker and the audience by criticizing his competence.  Typically, the speaker and audience will hear our criticism as a personal attack.  On the other hand, informing a speaker about weaknesses in his presentation is a gift depending on how we deliver the message.  If possible, consider checking with others to determine whether they had the same perception of the speaker’s shortcomings.  Once confident, deliver your message in a manner that is specific, positive, and centered on your needs.  Ethical communication is possible, even when delivering criticism.        

Example (1):  “I found your talk extremely dense.  Not everyone in the audience has a PHD in philosophy.” -- Versus --   “Thank you for introducing me to a philosopher with whom I was not acquainted.  Because I am a lay person, I would suggest that in future presentations you consider providing brief descriptions of the various philosophies that you mentioned.”

Example (2):  “You mumbled so badly during the platform you recently chaired that no one could understand what you were talking about.  Just something to consider.” – Versus – “I so enjoy your sense of humor when you chair a platform.  I have a slight hearing problem.  Therefore, I would appreciate your remembering to talk just a bit more slowly and distinctly so I can fully appreciate your comments.”     

The feedback provided in Example (1) is suitable for the public response portion of the program; whereas, the feedback provided in Example (2) would be better suited to a private discussion because it is likely to embarrass the recipient if delivered publicly.   

Ethical Etty

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